Couples Counseling

Co-parenting Counseling

Many couples benefit from a parenting coordinator who assists them in resolving conflicts related to shared custody and co-parenting. The stresses of residential changes, economic hardship and role changes often compromise parents’ capacity to co-operate in meeting their children’s needs for safety, care, control, education and relationships with each parent. Through therapy the couple will learn to maintain flexible arrangements about custody, retain strong relationship with their children without detouring conflict through them, prevent arguments from interfering with inter parental co-operation and keep them connected to the extended family.

Separation Counseling

Everyone knows that “breaking up is hard to do” and therapy can ease the pain and difficulty of uncoupling. Being able to process feelings inherent in separating such as guilt, denial, anger, mourning and a loss of hope helps healing and expedites recovery, better preparing you for the next stage of your life. Figuring out what went wrong in your relationship without recrimination and blame and allowing yourself to forgive, let go of resentments and cherish memories of happy times are some of the goals we aspire to achieve through separation counseling. For those couples who have children together separation process may be even more difficult as the couple mourns the loss of the intact family, struggles with doubts about separation, helps children deal with reconciliation fantasies and adjusts to the change in parent-child relationships.

Marital Counseling

Today’s couples are facing more challenges than ever before – economic hardships such as burdens of student loans, underwater mortgages and dual careers and lack of extended family and community support. Without a strong bond built on the ability to compromise, cooperate and communicate clearly the pressures of daily living chip away at the love and desire the couple has for each other, eroding the groundwork necessary for a lasting union. In our marital sessions we help couples minimize conflict, argue less and love more and teach them concrete marital skills, such as our ABCs of a happy marriage, beginning with daily practice of three A’s: Attention, Affection and Appreciation. Unfortunately, many couples wait too long to address their conflicts until growing resentment or estrangement makes reconciliation difficult or leads to extra marital affairs or psychological desertion.

Premarital counseling

Who doesn’t experience worry and doubts before tying the knot? Our anxiety is well grounded – while we all grow up with the notion of “happily ever after” – over half of marriages end in divorce and half of all spouses engage in extramarital affairs. And many of those who do remain married become estranged, disconnected or ridden with conflict. Just like every entrepreneur needs to do his or her due diligence before starting a new venture, every couple should get skills based premarital counseling before walking down the aisle. In fact, research shows that premarital counseling can reduce the risk of divorce by up to thirty percent and lead to a more fulfilled, happier marriage. When the honeymoon is over and the period of passionate love, known in psychological literature as limerence, ends many couples begin to feel that they are falling out of love. In our premarital counseling sessions we address issues such as communication, conflict resolution, perspective taking, compatibility, genograms, gender roles and family of origin issues and explore expectations, assisting in setting mutually compatible short-term and long term goals.